Do you ever find yourself holding back or avoiding important steps because you feel too scared or overwhelmed? What if you could harness your fears to unlock a new level of courage?
In intimate relationships, you’ve probably heard me say that every argument with your partner carries a hidden wish for growth:
A desire to resolve an old conflict or trigger in a new way so that you can create and master a fresh emotional experience around it, instead of falling into the same disappointing patterns on autopilot.
Does this resonate with you?
The same principle applies to our personal struggles, anxieties, and suffering. It’s natural for us to want to avoid or shy away from "difficult feelings"—especially the ones we label as "bad." But when we run from our shadows, we cheat ourselves out of important growth opportunities.
How might your life change if you could use your personal challenges to cultivate more love, compassion, and trust within yourself and with your partner? (By the way, if you’re a parent, this can also help you connect more deeply with your kids.)
Imagine what would be different if, instead of getting stuck in fight, flight, or freeze responses, you could embrace those difficult feelings and learn from them.
Our deepest fears or "gremlins" often highlight what we still need to heal or understand, provided we’re willing to listen and allow them to guide us on our path to growth and greater self-trust.
Leave a comment below if this resonates with you!